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Rainy Day Musings

We have finally had a cooler day with some rain here! So happy about that! And it was on a day that I had off form work! I’ve gotten some things done around the house but I have also just enjoyed my day. I will admit I was a bit lazy. But honestly, over the month of June, that just wasn’t even an option. There was so much going on all the time in June that it was just go go go all month long. I think more people need to take life breaks every now and then. We as a society need to take some time to just refresh.

Why we should refresh:

~ We come out more focused after. By taking even a couple hours or simply a bath to relax and refresh we push the reset button and are able to come back more focused on the work at hand or the life issue that stands before us. It helps us take a step back and see things from a different angle.

~ We don’t implode. I don’t know about you, but if I don’t take time to refresh and relax I tend to implode and damage relationships around me. I end up hurting others and myself in the process. We again are able to take a step back and see things from a different angle and see how our actions affect those around us.

~ We are happier! Who doesn’t want to be happier?! I know that is always a goal for me! By taking time away from your duties and just enjoying You time, it makes your overall sense of happiness more prominent. So take that time to relax and refresh!

~ We realize the world does not revolve around us. Refreshing really helps take us out of ourselves and realize that there is more to this world that our stresses. There is more going on than just our issues. That in and of itself helps us refresh, or at least it helps me refresh and relax. I love realizing it is not all about me. Probably just my personality type lol.

Time to go enjoy the rest of my day off before heading back to the retail world tomorrow!

See ya!

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Marriage: A Work in Progress

I know I am only 4 years in, but man have have I learned a lot in those 4 years. I feel like our marriage is something completely different than what it was in the beginning. And you know what? I love it. I love where we are right now. I love the people we have become. I love the man that he has become. I love everything about who we are. Forget about where we are at with jobs or our respective families and just looking at us, I love it so much. There is something so special about the bond between a husband and a wife. It is something I never could have imagined before.

Things I have learned or fallen in love with in my 4 years:

~ Accept each others faults. I have learned that I can’t change my husband. I know, that is so cliche but it is the honest truth. I wouldn’t want to either. His faults make up part of who he is and I wouldn’t change one aspect of who he is. I hope he feels the same way about me haha!

~ Take time just for each other. We go through phases where we spend all our time together or we spend all our time with friends. Taking time with friends helps each other grow but making sure to take time for just each other is pivotal. If you don’t spend time alone with each other especially in the beginning of your marriage, it can put a damper on the intimacy of your relationship.

~ Realize there are things that you share only with your husband or wife. There are some things that are just your little secret. Keep those that way. Or there are hurts shared that need to be kept between the two of you to preserve that trust. Trust me, I have learned this one the hard way.

~ Ladies, don’t be afraid to enjoy your husband. Embrace intimacy, especially physical intimacy. Some of you might be thinking, oh I just don’t think I could enjoy it that much. But trust me, I have seen my marriage falter when I am not interested in him. I have seen other aspects of intimacy be hurt when I am not interested in him. Sometimes it requires an effort on my part, but the connection we have because of it is so worth it!

This is by no means a thorough list, just a few of the top two on my mind currently. I am, scratch that, we are continually growing in our marriage. It is something that takes effort and take grace and mercy and compassion, and love. I wouldn’t trade it for the world.

What have you learned in your marriages or even just relationships?

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Summer Time

It is summer time and I wish I could say the living is easy. Life has been so hectic lately. I honestly don’t even know where the month of June went. Next thing I knew, it was July. I traveled in June, celebrated a birthday (yay me), had family in town, and did lots of working. I have had some time to spend outside. That has been quite lovely! Although, it has also been insanely warm. Not so lovely. I have already said to TJ on multiple occasions how ready I am for it to be fall and winter. I’m ready for chillier nights, warm drinks, sweaters, skiing. I’m ready to not be baking in my own bed every time I go to sleep.

Anyway, enough of me ranting. Nobody likes to read that at least for too long.

Let’s see, what news do I have to share…

Matt has moved back in to our house. Yay! He is less stressed and we enjoy having him and his lovely little lady dog Korra. She is such a cutie and already considers herself part of the pack.

TJ will be working his last shift at REI this coming Saturday. He will move on to work at a smaller retailer store where I think he will be much happier.

I am actively seeking new work. I am really looking for some virtual assistant work where I can spend a little more time at home with my boys and have a more flexible schedule as well. Finding that kind of work is a lot harder than it looks.

Faelyn and Halo are doing great! They do not want to be outside too much now that it is hot. I can’t even imagine how hot it must be having all of that hair!

Right now I am reading The Ocean at the End of the Lane by Neil Gaiman. It is a really weird but interesting read.

We are in the middle or rather nearing the end of watching through Scrubs. If you haven’t watched it, its hilarious.

We have finally found a church and are settled in there! So happy to have a church family now!

I think that about sums up everything that is currently going on!

Until next time,

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3 Years!

Guys! You will not believe this! I have been on here for 3 whole years! I can’t even believe it!

You guys have made this the best! You have stuck with me through the blogs and the silent patches! Thank you guys so much! It really means a lot to me! I honestly would probably not have continued writing if it weren’t for the support you guys have shown through all of this! Thank you thank you thank you!

In case you missed some of it! Here are some of my favorite highlights (alright I picked a lot!) of the past 3 years on here!

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Faelyn came into my life just before I started blogging on here!

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Tj got a motorcycle in April 2012, you can read about it here. (It didn’t stay too long lol)

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A time when I was newly married and skinnier and overall happier I think. Good times!

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The love of my life on our honeymoon, you can read about that awesomeness here!

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My brother became an Eagle Scout in April 2012! I have never been a more proud sister! There are more pictures and stories about it here!

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I had bangs at one point… weird…

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I got my bachelor’s degree in May 2012! That was a huge day for me! You can see more pictures and read about it here!

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I really miss the beach!

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Our first apartment in Colorado! Check it out!

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My first Halloween at REI. To this day, I am still referred to as Rosie the Riveter any time I wear a bandana.

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I love his weird sleeping positions!

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Our first house! You can check it out here!

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The first car we bought together! (This one lasted I think a year before it went buh-bye) Check it!

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Halo came into our lives just over a year ago and I couldn’t be happier!

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I love this picture! My amazing brother in law took it and I couldn’t be happier!

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When we went and visited my family just over a year and a half ago, somehow I got this picture of my sister. It is my favorite picture of her by far!

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Hawaii!

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He is really the best! Trying to “conjure” up the water!

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My best friend for life! I wouldn’t be anywhere without him!

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This is Tara’s I’m crushing it face. Faelyn looks confused lol!

Thanks for sharing in the past 3 years! Here’s to a another one!

Ashley

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Gifts for Him

I am always just generally keeping an eye on things I would like to buy my husband. Gift giving is a huge love language for me! I can’t help it! Haha!

So, that being said check out these awesome things I would like to buy my hubby some day!

These watch from Tree Hut Design is so awesome! You can check them out here!

I absolutely love this ring from MaraJoyce! Beautiful handiwork, you should check it out here!

I absolutely love this beard comb from miniFab! Tj would love this! Check out their work here!

Someday, I hope I can get him these things! An anniversary is not too far off 😉

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Warm Weather Dreaming

Anybody ready for some warm weather? Some sunshine and vitamin D? I will admit, I raised my hand on both of those!

Now, don’t get me wrong! I am a huge ski bum! I would love to next year be able to work less and chase the powder more! You know what I’m saying?! I love love love skiing!

But, I am also a California girl who loves her warm weather and sunshine. It got to be 45 degrees today and I got excited! How sad is that?! I was happy that it warmed up this week! That was considered warm! Haha!

Anyway, I can’t help but look at these pictures on my pinterest page and dream of being in these places!

Who wants to go swimming in these crystal clear waters with me?! That sounds great!

Am I the only one dreaming of warm weather?

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The Story of My Life

Oh man guys, has it been a long couple of weeks and it is about to get longer. Between family coming to visit, getting back to life, figuring out work stuff, skiing (yes, there was a little pleasure in the long weeks teehee), and now taking over for my other boss because she just welcomed a little one into her little family! Yay!! Life is crazy? Right? Or is it just me?

There has also been much figuring out within my marriage too. I have come to realize that marriage is a constant growing of both sides. One side can’t grow in the relationship and the other stay stagnant. People change and that in turn changes how they interact with everyone, especially the people they are closest. Sometimes the growing is in a good way! I am totally one of those people that believe that no matter what, whether you grow for good or change for not so good, I stay in a relationship. I am not getting all preachy here, just this is me. I only want to stay with one man for my lifetime. I don’t ever see divorce as an option. There are dire circumstances that it would only ever be a possibility but I don’t ever see that happening! I am head over heels for this man! Even on days when I am not, I choose to love. It may not uber romantic but it is me saying ‘I am here and here to stay.’

So that was my little relationship soapbox for the day. Haha! Wow, didn’t see that one coming out…

Right now, I am also in the midst of training for a half marathon! It is my first and I am only up to being able to run 5 miles at this point! But honestly, this is huge for me! Last year, I wasn’t even really able to run a mile! This is huge! I am so determined and it feels so good! I will keep you updated as my training continues!

Guys, the last couple days have been exhausting. I think I am gonna hit the hay!

See you tomorrow!

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